Comments on: You Won’t Like Me When I’m Angry

By: BricksHereMan

BricksHereMan — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 14:16:07 +0000

I TOTALLY agree. I think that’s what the prophet guy was saying. I’ve had a series of those little “innocent” misunderstandings in the past. Although they sometimes REALLY get under my skin, I know that there’s no harm intended by it especially when it comes from a friend. So rather than getting upset, I address it and just let’em know. It doesn’t always go over so well because some people just cannot understand this point but hey, better to try. Great article!

By: Kina

Kina — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 20:29:14 +0000

Interesting.. Well my friend I guess we both agree there are a number of issues with this situation, but the source of this situation strays from the waiter who assumed her opinion was of your greatest concern. I guess the best thing I can say at this point is the only way you wonâ€™t become a victim of the stereotype is if you donâ€™t personalize it. Of course it seems near impossible when itâ€™s directed to you, understand the lack of education that stands behind it.
Your friends wanted to diffuse the situation and although their comment was offensive to you, I would hope malice was not behind it and they probably donâ€™t understand that theyâ€™ve made a mistake. In fairness you should explain to them where they went wrong and understand exactly where they are coming from, maybe itâ€™s all a misunderstanding. Thatâ€™s what communication can do for you honey.

By: C-Drag

C-Drag — Sat, 02 Aug 2008 19:43:40 +0000

The first commenter is right. It’s B.S, but there’s always a stereotype black males will fall into no matter what they say or do. I hadn’t really thought about your side of the angry black man stereotype, but you’re completely right. What your friend said was just as racist and stereotypical as the waitresses comment.

By: Stago Lee

Stago Lee — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 04:09:28 +0000

I can’t make a comment you really said a mouthful! I work with a decent number of white males and it is true. There is always a stereotype that we can live up to. Thug, lazy, etc… I fall victim to watching my vocabulary trying to aviopd sounding unintelligent and while being from the south it is almost impossible to fall into one of those good old lose vowel moment where my jaws clinch and my words become mumble and the Lingo beggins to fly out.