When we gone get to the good part?
Written April 6, 2010
by The Shaman
How long should I have to “court” you before we get to the good stuff. I’m not saying I’m not a chivalrous and gentlemanly person (I’d like to think that I am), but how long should I have to keep this gentleman thing up before we get to the meat and potatoes.
I actually enjoy taking a pretty girl out for a night on the town and, if I got it like that, picking the tab up (just make sure if we decide to go Dutch, you can carry yourself); nevertheless, I don’t really want to take you out every time, or think of ways to spend nice courtly evenings with you. I want to call you up on those lazy Thursday/Friday afternoons when I don’t feel like going out and tell you to come over to my place to just sit and do nothing.
But I can’t do that. Can I? No, because your won’t let me, not because you think I’m just trying to get into your pants, but because you want to be courted longer before we get on that level. I got a problem with that. I’m not gonna court you just because you feel you should be courted. Women always talk about how they don’t wanna be treated like objects or property but then hold out on you and make you wait for the good part in the relationship like they’re auctioning themselves off, looking to maximize the final bid. It’s pure nonsense.
What’s the “Good Part” you might ask?
“The good part” of a relationship is when both parties are comfortable enough around each other to be themselves just about as wholly and completely as they can. When he doesn’t have to make sure his house/apt is spotless before she comes over, when she doesn’t have to dress sexy all the time, when he doesn’t have to close the door when he “drops anchor”, when she can crawl into bed w/ her period panties. Okay, maybe that’s a bit of a hyperbole but it’s exaggerated to illustrate my point. Women shouldn’t “hold out” at the early stages of a relationship just for shits and giggles.
It’s entirely possible to skip to the good part, or simply arrive at the good part without giving too much of yourself to the guy. It’s plain and simple. If you like a guy, and the guy likes you…then like him and let him know that you like him too without making him bid on you. I’m perfectly fine with dating a girl who isn’t sure how much she likes me so I can show her my personality, sense of humour, motivations, etc. But I’m not cool w/ dating a girl who’s already sold on me but is keeping crap from progressing because she’s “old fashioned”. Not cool.
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for the most part i agree, but if the woman is serious about the guy, i think there is a less likely chance that she will “hold out” and delay the “good parts” of the relationships for the sake of “shits and giggles”. so i am going to assume that the women you are referring to who immaturely hold out do so cuz they are not serious about the guy…… in which case, said guy should just move on.
women like to feel adored and treasured and just because a guy courts a girl does not mean that either of them view her as a property to be earned or possessed (sp?). everyone has value and simply put “the guy choses to express how much he values the girl when he courts her” and he can do this any number of ways (i.e. spending quality time with her, “dropping anchor” with the door open (which maybe showcases his ease with showing her a more vulnerable side…lol), gifts, words, goats, etc.)