Comments on: The Myth of the 50/50

By: Axe

Axe — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 04:18:46 +0000

Sistas get respect, bitches get what they deserve
Sistas work hard, bitches work your nerves
Sistas hold you down, bitches hold you up
Sistas help you progress, bitches will slow you up
Sistas cook up a meal, play their role with the kids
Bitches in street with their nose in your biz
Sistas tell the truth, bitches tell lies
Sistas drive cars, bitches wanna ride
Sistas give-up the ass, bitches give-up the ass
Sistas do it slow, bitches do it fast
Sistas do their dirt outside of where they live
Bitches have nigga all up in your crib
Sistas tell you quick “you better check your homie”
Bitches don’t give a fuck, they wanna check for your homie
Sistas love Jay cuz they know how ‘Hov is
I love my sistas, I don’t love no bitch

By: Tammy

Tammy — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 04:54:15 +0000

Addition: However – and well well, I think the reason of beeing with someone – is to have someone to tk care of you – even when your weak at times. Means in all those times when your not on your 100 % and able to give a split. As you have someone – to tk care of you – your lucky with someone or on your own (maybe also lucky) – then when you meet someone I think it makes more sense to tk your time and see – if after a reasonable time – your not only the person giving – but also receiving. We are usually not meeting ppl that are totally equal with us or life changes and anything can happen so your might get needy too it is therefore wise to contribute into your partner so when you might need someone – you have someone that is also willing to help you. So I think 50 / 50 is a selfish thing – as it means nothing but – I pay for myself and not for you. I dont care about you. If I am 50 / 50 – it means I dont care for you and when I leave – your on your own – I dont owe you nothing. However if I give – or take it is rather a 60 / 40 or 70 / 40 thing. As you can expect so much of a grown person – to at least have something to help yourself with and you might just need a little help and who loves you – will give it. If I love I give and I dont expect nothing back – but a thank you and a happy person in my life – not even the favour in return – but I hope for it – of course. And I do only love ppl who would be that much of nice to do the same. Love is giving not taking and either I am genrous enough in life to take care and give things away or I just leave it and of course I will look into someone that would do the same. Thats why women still test men if they willing to give – without a return – on dates – if they do – you know he is nice and you can give back to him too…AS WHAT THEY SAY: A person can only be judged by how he treats those who can do nothing for him. -philosopher unknown

By: Tammy

Tammy — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 04:40:20 +0000

I think the main reason why we ever created relationships in the western world – between just two – was due to women not having had any rights to live on their own without a man and that girls got taught not to go for high-paid jobs to be able to feed a family later on – but got encouraged to do all these “care-jobs and smart jobs” that hardly dont pay bills. Men got taught and encouraged to do “more” rather than playing with dolls, looking small and slim, to either be hard worker or a big manager. Men can also be more dominant at a job and get respect – while women – would be called a psycho neurotic wrack – so even till now – and just a few decades ago – women depended on men to live a life. Marriage was and still is a providing-contract – nothing more – love grew in such relationships but never been requested. Now we have more freedom as women and the providing plan – angers men – as they dont want to provide for a person they dont “own”. Till 2day we still have these marriages that had just been set up. I also never got supported at home – without a men – when I left him, I was on my own. Not a bad thing.

By: Francis

Francis — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 14:33:08 +0000

See i think that’s the problem, people get into these relationship with people whom they are not too sure about that they even like or love. I don’t think people play mind games; I think that people are trying to figure the other person out. It’s simple to call it on the obvious. Besides isn’t a game only played when both parties play; so what it is called when neither of the party play a “game”?

By: The Genius

The Genius — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 09:25:25 +0000

Hector says: "but his final example is one of physical comparison which is places men in the camp of â€œbetter.â€

Sorry Hector, but if you're gonna quote me....please do it accurately. Stark differences I said. Different ≠ Deficient. I was not calling men better in that statement but yes I believe men are superior in many categories, women in others. Tha's kind of an underlying theme of this post.

By: Hector

Hector — Mon, 23 Jun 2008 21:14:46 +0000

It interesting that the “author” claims that he is not saying men are better than women, but his final example is one of physical comparison which is places men in the camp of “better.” So despite the authors suggestions that the women should relax before passing judgment I hope that the women reading this article took not of the authors intention despite the authors attempt to return them to the kitchen in order to “get a drink from the fridge”

By: Jade

Jade — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 05:03:37 +0000

ok I agree, no the relationship will never be 50/50 but at least the kids on the see-saw are striving to balance it. Thats how people want their relationship. Not neccessarily 50/50 but to at least know we are both giving equal effort in trying to balance it. Because once you feel like that person isnt contributing as much as you thats when you create more problems for the relationship…

By: Paragon

Paragon — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 00:27:02 +0000

Has anyone balanced anything lately? Or have been to the park and watch kids on the see-saw. Or was that kid on the see-saw? When things balance they are not necessarily level/parallel to the ground. Depending on your relational equilibrium it may be 60/40, 55/45, etc and work. However, we all know that there is a certain point that tips the scale and your butt hits the ground all too expectedly and you may even bit your tongue. Sorry, yo bad for pushing the elements.

By: ynoti

ynoti — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 23:37:22 +0000

I always looked at a 50/50 relationship meaning both equally putting in work. not neccessarily who makes more money and has more power. But as The Reverend said hitting on who’s more into the relationship.

By: The Reverend

The Reverend — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 03:22:10 +0000

You know, i know I never spoke to you about the 50/50 myth. But d*mn if it ain’t completely true.

Also, i thought you were going to hit on how someone is always more into the relationship than the other person. Post seemed brief. Maybe that’s part of a different theory. Or maybe I was supposed to put that one up. I dunno. But essentially (not talking about power/control) someone is always more “into” the relationship than their significant other. Maybe that’s what that book “He’s just not that into you” is about. Never read it. I’m usually that “He”. Anyway, the two of you can be close, but that investment -like the power/control of the relationship- is never equal. If your lucky though, you have a hard time figuring out which one you are.

Sidenote: I like how the pillow got 15% of the power.