Comments on: The Fate of Black Love – Part I

By: jamaal st.john

jamaal st.john — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 17:54:11 +0000

I honestly believe that once black folk start to understand
That perfection is an unattainable quality in a person we will all be better off. There is no such thing as a perfect
Marriage or relationship because any relationship is a work in progress. Perfect is an outcome so how can a work in progress ever be perfect.
Also we live in a fast food cuture. Everyone wants instant gratification. Relationships require. A lot of hard work and patience.
Problem is that no one wants to do the work it takes to maintain healthy, meaningful relationships. Until that happens the divorce rate in the african american community
Will continue to be high. No such thing as fairy tale life. We have to earn everything we get and that includes the trust and respect of those
We get involved with. Un realististic expectations are also a major relationship killer. That’s why I am so tired of folks talking about 50-50 all the time. It should be 100-100.
I’ll take 200% over 100% any day. By the way we need to stop saying the term better or other half. That implies that someone completes you but only you can complete you
What is needed is not someone who completes us but someone who compliments us instead. We really need to get
Ourselves together if we are ever going to experience the beauty and joy true love has to offer.

By: Francis

Francis — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 14:39:38 +0000

I agree with this article. But I also think that there’s too much competition on finding the “perfect” wife and husband. I thiink most black folks are superficial in fact most people marry people whom they don’t really like or love. I’ve been to eight wedding in one year and three already ended in divorce.

By: Iceete

Iceete — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:56:38 +0000

This article really hit home for me and made me think long and hard. I agree for the most part with the artilce. I am a 45 year old black woman and all I wanted from a black man was to love me really love me, like a man should. You know how a man is supposed to love a woman… that is all I want, because with that love comes all the things that are necessary in a healthy relationship. Of course there are things that I don’t want in a man, like he cannot be a satanist or into black magic, or anything like that, but just an ordinary God fearing man. Love God and Love me.. If it were’nt for my sista’s and motha’s that keep telling me what is wrong with the man that I am seeing, I might even be able to be happy with the man of my choice, but my sista’s continue to ask me, why I want this man..he ungly, or short, or poor, or stupid, or broke, or whatever they don’t like about him…. I believe that woman choose men for their girlfriends, mothers, or family, not becase they are really following their hearts.. .
After reading this article and listening to another conversation on the same topic.. I have decided to stop listening to other woman, and start listening to my heart.

And another thing,, Men stop picking those skanky women that are only after your money, and home, then you go talking about how all women are gold diggers . I am sick of hearing that. If you choose a good woman you will have a good woman. If you choose a skank that is what you will get. I know both types and I listen to both talk about what they want in a man. Most of those woman who think they look so good, want you to pay to have them on their arm.. If not then they would be looking for a good man to start a relationship with, not support them.

Iceete

By: Teh One

Teh One — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 01:34:07 +0000

way to grapple and analyze.

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